Time-Mongering as Contraception

One of my visitors here, at Anonyma's place, runs a website on lying and deception. There are many articles well-written about the why's and how's of cheaters and liars within the bounds of relationships. Much of the information is geared toward the cuckolded spouse, but there is also a lot about the psychologies of both parties involved in said acts of deception. If read with an open mind, I think anyone can gain from their insights. Along with these articles are numerous checklists, "how to catch" type quizzes, and other such "quickies" that capture the short-of-attention-spanned web surfers. In one of these checklists, I found the "how" type answers of what to look out for (if you're the suspicious cuckolded), or "does this sound familiar?" (if you're the guilty cheater). One of these how's happens to be <i>Opportunity</i>. I'm finding that this aspect seems to be the biggest one on my list of how did any of this happen to be? Without the time-opportunity, it's virtually impossible for me to stray from my partner. And he has such a strong grasp of my "free time" that I rarely even have the opportunity to write on this blog or read up on my favorite blogs out there. Was this his strategy all along? The "short leash" really does work. Only, the key to it is starting off like that from the beginning. That way, if I start tugging on the leash, it's suddenly something <i>I'm</i> doing that's different, rather than his act of being more controlling or something... and as far as reciprocity goes, his leash is always slack. It doesn't matter how much tether I give, he always needs less distance than I do. Strange how these things work...