No, I'm not changing my position on extramarital affairs... so far so good. I'm talking about masturbation. For the longest time, I've been an on-my-stomach, palm-on-clit, no-fingers kind of girl. It's hard, it's rough, and it's fast. I definitely like a good fingering, but I guess my digits just can't compete with those of a man. Recently, I've discovered Literotica, an awesome stories archive, with some daily free pics (basically just adverts for pay sites). So in order to be able to read the stories off my laptop and still touch myself, I've had to do a 180 on how I get myself off. This is a very good thing.
When I'm lying on my back, I don't have the weight of my body pressing down on my hand, so I really have to work at how I stimulate myself. This also opens my tits up to the air, and I can rub them and grab my nipples easier. And boy is that nice! Not to mention, I'm sure my H (and perhaps other lovers) will like it better since they get to see more of me, while they're watching me please myself. Not only that, since it's (relatively) new to me, it takes me much longer to reach an orgasm, which makes it much more intense when it does happen. And to top it all off, I don't get the pubic mound bruising like I used to get when I masturbated on my stomach "too often".
Speaking of masturbation, I had the pleasure of leaning (and slowly grinding) my crotch up against a vibrating table at work today. Don't ask for specifics of why the table was vibrating -- just accept it as a given, because I'll never tell. Yeah, that felt really good. The kicker: I was doing this in secret right in front of another coworker! I got wet just thinking about my naughty act.
Opinions for the ladies out there: how well does a vibrator work for you in reaching an orgasm? how well does cunnilingus work for you in getting there? Me -- vibrating dildos seem to be too much stimulation for me; it kind of gets in the way. I've never used a bullet directly on my clit before, but I'd think it would be too much as well. As for oral, well... I've managed to cum from it only once in my life... and I happened to be fantasizing that I was in a coma being violated, not moving my body at all, going completely passive. Don't get the wrong idea though... I cum fairly easily... on a cock. I think that's probably one of the main reasons why I have a hard time imagining myself sustaining any kind of long sexual relationship with another woman; she'd probably get tired of me wanting so much strap-on action.
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If you had some one give you some GOOD HEAD, you wouldnt have that problem...nothin' like it........H.M.
i just recently in the last year got off using a vibrator. i always found them to be annoying also or too much. however, playing around helped me figure out how to use it towards my benefit. i also never really come with oral either.
i do have the talent of the ability of masturbating without the use of my hands and i have been doing that since a little girl.
like you....nothing beats a cock. but i am sure plenty of women would not mind the use of toys or even a man.
*wink*
yo -- I like to think that the ability to receive pleasure lies more within the self, rather than placing the lack upon the giver. But then, it's always easier to blame someone else for one's own shortcomings. And, not that it matters, but I wonder.. are you a man?
Gracie -- as always, you rock! I'm jealous of your talents... would come in handy in lots of situations. And, if I read your body language correctly, then I most definitely will stop by your place the next time I'm in Ca. for some fun!
Well, that's too bad about not enjoying oral sex, Anonym. In many ways, going down on a woman is one of my favorite sex acts. But, as long as you're getting of somehow, it's all good!
Oh, I guess I should clarify -- I never said I don't enjoy oral!! It's extremely pleasurable. Where I get stuck is the in-between of relinquishing control and submitting voluntarily to him/her completely, all the way to orgasm. (Which is why the coma fantasy seemingly worked...) I have a lot of images flying about my head right now... maybe I'll write an Oral Special as my next post -- not a "how to" per se, but more like "what I've always wanted but could never ask for" type fantasy.
There is so much to say on the subject!
I can cum with oral alone, but it takes a little longer. Oral while being anally stimulated makes me cum instantly and very HARD... probably my favorite combination.
I love masturbating on my back rubbing my clit with my fingers. I like having a dildo in my pussy when I cum in that position. But mostly just straight finger flicking of the clit does it for me. Watching porn enhances the experience as does reading erotica. (I've been a longtime fan of Penthouse Forum -- Letters; although there is way too much advertising in their magazine now.)
My favorite toy is a small clit vibrator... kind of like an extension of my own finger. My lover bought it for me and I love to use it to stimulate my clit when he is fucking me.
I had my 3 part fantasy posted on my blog published on Literotica. I'd love to write more for submitting, but I barely have the time to keep up my blog and enjoy reading all of yours!!!
Dogs rock!!!! (They can give themselves oral...tee hee!) This reminds me to write a post about a friend who found a strange experience with her dog arousing.
god, masterbation and oral -- what's not to like?? the subject is a handful, or is it a mouthful? your talk of your masturbation habits and changes only reinforces my long held desire to be a woman sometime so i can at least once have the experience of clit stimulation, not to mention vaginal penetration. it is a never-ending source of mystery, interest, and excitement to me how very different woman are when it comes to what they like in stimulation, their ability to have orgasm from oral, touching, or penetration, and their masturbation techniques. not to imply that men are all the same, but.... let's face it, men are much more predictable. just another example of how special women are. cheers, girls!!
Don't really get off on vibrators and never use one when I'm alone (ok almost never!). I'm a lay on my back and use fingers type of girl. Can't say I'll not try anything though.
I love oral sex but not if it gets too wet- don't know if it's since having kids but this seems to ruin the sensation so I'm often to be found wiping it mid lick LOL!
I know who you are and who your husband is.
Give me one good reason I shouldn't blow your cover to him?
Just one....
Thanks to everyone who's commented here, *esp. the lovely ladies who have entertained my questions. It's good to hear about these things from other people... I'm actually surprised at the level of consensus here. And thanks to our [new?] Anonymous commentor who's trying to scare me with lackluster threats. Though most of me believes the chances of this are insignificant, there is some tiny speck of "hmm... perhaps..." Whatever the case, it's not in my control. So I'll roll with the punches. Topic for yet another post... "what if?"
Yea! kinda like "I know who you are and what you did!!!" Isn't there a movie like that??? LOL I like your posts keep them up Girl!!!
back to the topic..I like gracie have the no hands skills, but I started to realize that was the only way I could get off--by myself or with anyone (squeezing thighs together). It has always been a great orgasm. Then now I have found myself using various vibrators the past year, once again I can't get off any other way. So I decided recently to ween myself off of both because I am sick of not being able to enjoy it when a lover rubs my clit or does oral. I love them both but they won't get me off because of my habit
** Please note, the above comment was removed because it was a duplicate on another thread. **
And yes, back to the point... I think forcing myself to experience pleasure and orgasm through different methods has been a really good thing. Not that I'd get bored otherwise, but the variety acts as a reminder of the newness of experience. The worst thing (witnessed across many aspects of my life) is numbness... loss of appreciation for all the little things... taking life for granted. When we do celebrate the incremental differences, it's like bursting alive, tapping into long buried forces.
Melanie -- I know that I absolutely ADORE ass-fingering during anything (cock-sex, dildo-sex, oral-sex, vaginal fingering, etc.) It just seems to make great things even greater! Congrats on the literotica publishing -- that 3-parter was definitely hot!
Jemima -- I agree, too wet loses sensation. And I've never even had kids! I think it might have to do with how I've "trained" myself to orgasm my whole life... dry. Even with sex on the drier side (just wet enough to get it in, not too wet to be slippery) I cum much faster.
TheGirl -- Good luck with the weaning process. I've found it's much easier to do so on my own than with my partner -- that whole performance anxiety thing? I'm still working on the vibrator though... that one might take a little while to get used to.
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